For quite a few years it has been the trend amongst tarot readers, authors, and teachers (myself included) to encourage readers to help their querents (person asking the question) rephrase certain types of questions. What kinds of questions did we like to rephrase?
1. Yes/No questions
2. Questions involving a third party without their consent
3. Predictions about the future
4. â€śWhatâ€ť or â€śWhenâ€ť questions
These questions are often considered less than helpful because they assume a pre-determined future and because they do not empower the querent. Questions that are favored are ones that:
1. Help the querent identify what they want
2. Give the querent guidance regarding their spiritual or personal development
3. Questions that lead to actions that the querent can take to achieve their goals
4. Questions that expand the querentâ€™s understanding of themselves, their lives, and the situation concerning them
It is easy to see why so many tarotists favor the latter questions. Most of us do not believe in a pre-determined future and most of us believe that we do have a considerable amount of power over our own lives. We believe that the cards can be most helpful to people when used in these ways.
Yet, most readers will agree that in general the most commonly asked questions are about love and money/career. And not necessarily â€śwhat can I do to draw love into my lifeâ€ť or â€śwhat steps can I take to prepare and find a better job.â€ť The questions begin as â€świll someone come into my life?â€ť and â€śwhen will I find work?â€ť
In the past, I have always worked with querents to rephrase these questions. Sometimes they are satisfied and sometimes they are not. Sometimes they just want their question answered. Oddly, Iâ€™ve grown less and less comfortable with rephrasing. So much so that Iâ€™ve taken a hiatus from reading for others until I find a solution that Iâ€™m happy with. I do not want to be â€śjust a fortune teller,â€ť especially if aspects of fortune telling are at odds with my beliefs. But I donâ€™t want to tell people that they shouldnâ€™t want to know what they want to know. Ya know?
Where do you stand on this? Has your opinion about rephrasing changed over time?