Readers, please enjoy this guest blog post by Mark Anthony, author of Never Letting Go.
In my new book, Never Letting Go, I explain how the objective of healing from loss is to âLet go of the sorrow, but hold on to the love.â This means releasing the emotional pain caused by the death, but never letting go of the love for the person who died.
In both my careers as an attorney and as a psychic medium, Iâve seen many lives haunted by regret for not being able to say âIâm sorryâ to a deceased loved one.
Conversely, holding anger and regret is like drinking a bitter poison and expecting the other person to die. When that person is already dead, then youâre the one being poisoned. Only forgiveness can relieve you of the bitterness of regret.
In a recent reading I conducted for Marlene, the spirit of her mother Beverly came through.
Beverly, who had been an alcoholic, showed me sad memories from her life. Both mother and daughter shed many tears during Marleneâs childhood. Beverly died of liver disease when Marlene was only fourteen years old, leaving behind an emotionally-scarred child, who was now the attractive and sophisticated woman sitting before me.
âYour mother regrets all the pain she caused,â I conveyed.
âShe should,â Marlene replied.
âShe feels your anger,â I explained.
Marleneâs eyes locked on mine. âDo you know what itâs like having an alcoholic mother? Forgetting to pick me up after school. Embarrassing me in front of my friends. No dinner on the tableâshe always had plenty of booze though!â
âSheâs showing me a sweet orange fruitâa tangerine,â I described.
Marlene was astonished, âEvery Christmas there was a tangerine in my stockingâfrom Santa.â
âThe tangerine is important,â I continued.
Fighting tears Marlene said, âOne Christmas EveâI was sixâDad and I got back from ChurchâI was so excited Santa was comingâŚâ
âTell me,â I knew this was crucial.
âMom was passed out drunk on the floorânext to a bag of tangerinesâthatâs how I learned there was no Santa Claus.â
Tears flowed from Marleneâs eyes. âIâm mad at her for drinking herself to deathâand Iâm guilt-ridden with regret for feeling that way. She was a good personâI know she didnât really mean any of it.â
âYour mother was a good person; she suffered from depression. She regrets hurting you,â I delivered the message.
âMom I forgive you! Please forgive me!â Marlene cried out.
âShe forgives youâand thanks you for forgiving herâand for what you still do with tangerines,â I conveyed.
âShe does?â Marleneâs lit up with joy. âEvery Christmas I put tangerines in my childrenâs and grandchildrenâs stockingsâIâm so happy she knows this! I love you Mom!â
Beverlyâs forgiveness was Heaven-sent, just as Marleneâs forgiveness was sent to Heaven. Both of them healed a bit that day by cleansing the bitterness of regret with the sweet flavor of forgivenessâwhich for Beverly and Marlene tasted like tangerine.
Our thanks to Mark for his guest post! For more from Mark Anthony, read his article “Love Never DiesâJust Ask a Spirit.”