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The Astrological Elements: How to Communicate with Your Partner
This article was written by Olivia
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Whether you are just falling in love or youíre a newlywed who still hasnít come down to earth after the honeymoon, it is essential to learn the fine art of communication.
Many times when lovers hear how important communication is in keeping love alive, their eyes glaze over. They seem to think communication is simply not sexy. Oh, how wrong they are! When you do it right, the rewards are definitely sexy. Good communication leads to a feeling of security with each other, which leads to a feeling of belonging to each other, which leads straight to the bedroom.
In my book Love After Sex, I wrote in great detail about each sign and how problems may arise in three areas familiar to all lovers: Sex, Money, and Power. Remember that finding it difficult to communicate with your lover does not mean that you are not right for each other or that the relationship is doomed. Far from it. It simply means that you are both human and totally unique. You may need to be communicated with differently in order to feel loved, needed and respected.
However, most lovers make a basic mistake. They communicate with their partners the way they want someone to communicate with them. The second mistake is throwing up their hands and saying ďI just canít talk to you!Ē Actually, what they should be admitting is ďI just donít know how to talk to you.Ē For instance, Aries has a ďstraight to the pointĒ approach that may be appreciated by another fiery sign, but its bluntness can put the sensitive psyche of a Cancer into intensive care. Unless you really understand your loverís unique needs, then how can you communicate effectively?
Since we all feel the strongest, the most secure and open to communication when weíre in our element, letís take a look at the signs that are at home in their astrological elements of Earth, Air, Fire, and Water. Each holds the key to communication.
EARTH: Taurus, Virgo, and Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius are air signs, and they require more of an intellectual approach. You are lucky to have someone who loves to communicate because that gives you a definite advantage. Whatever you do, stay as detached as possible. If you become over-emotional in stating your case you will lose your partnerís attention in a minute. Your lover is receptive to words, so begin by setting fire to his or her imagination. Paint pictures with words of the positive outcome you want your ideas to generate and donít spare the adjectives! When your lover catches your enthusiasm and begins to improve on your ideas, be appreciative and welcome his or her input. You will be on your way to a real partnership.
FIRE: Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius are fire signs, and the way to approach them is with positivity. These lovers hate the following: negativity, too much intellectualizing, and certainly teary confrontations. Begin by reinforcing their own positive self-image. Your partner doesnít always feel the confidence that he or she projects. Then, since these signs basically believe anything is possible if someone has the courage to attempt it, offer your ideas as a challenge for the both of you. Can you work together for a stronger relationship? If you make your lover feel the excitement of a new adventure, the answer will be yes. You know how impatient he or she can be, so donít put aside a weekend for communication. Make it short, make it loving, and it will be sweet.
WATER: Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces are water signs that are emotionally very sensitive. Have you ever felt that your partnerís psychic ability already sensed your feelings and that she or he was just waiting for you to express them? Itís true these signs relate strongly to feelings, so take your time expressing your own feelings in depth. Just make sure to cushion everything you say with nurturing warmth and love. This is tremendously important because these lovers are the most vulnerable of signs and easily hurt. They reflect back many times on what is said, replaying the words over and over in their minds. However, once you communicate the passion of your love, everything else you want to communicate will be met with sympathy, empathy and deep understanding.
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