We all have archetypes we attempt to live by. Perhaps you consciously, or unconsciously, model yourself after a parent or teacher. Maybe you have in your mind the way a mother or girlfriend, husband or father is supposed to be. You will try to live up to those archetypes in your life. If you succeed, you feel happy and successful. If you don't, you may feel distraught and like a failure.
One of the first things you might consider doing is coming to understand that archetypes, by their nature, are perfect. As humans, we can only strive to approach the archetype. If you expect perfection in yourself you are going to fail. If you expect a friend or lover to live up to your personal archetype of friend or lover, that relationship may fail, too. The key is to accept the archetype as the indicator of the path, not a tool to judge your success or failure.
The more archetypes we can draw on, the more potentials we have in our lives. Most people discover archetypes during their personal lives (such as parents or teachers). As you evolve, you will find archetypes in your community. For example, in the Wiccan community there are archetypes of priest and priestess, healer and bard, crone and magician, and several more. But perhaps some new ones are needed.
I have always said that change is necessary, but that we should only change things when it is necessary to do so. That is one of the reasons I think Wiccan Warrior by Kerr Cuhulain is such an important book. In it he presents eight archetypes associated with the notion of a Warrior. According to Kerr, being a Warrior is about becoming effective and creative in all you do. These new archetypes focus on balance, creativity, rationality, energy work, altered consciousness, magick, ritual and initiation.
You can learn about them, and tap into one or several. You'll also learn meditation, cord magick, breathwork, trance, ritual, and much more.
No matter what magical tradition you follow, you'll find something here to direct you on your path.
I've written a number of books for Llewellyn over the years—believe it or not, my upcoming release is number eight—but far and away the most popular one was my third, The Goddess Is in the Details. And I have to confess, it was my favorite too. (Shhh…don't tell the other books. They'll cry, and I'll have to give them each a... read this article