Relationships, Starting with Your Own Soul
by Cyndi Dale
We've all been there. Maybe we are
there, stuck in a toxic relationship. We perceive the other person as
negative, pessimistic, troubled, and irritating. As much as we'd like
to blame them for all the troubles, however, we know that we "let" them
"trip" our button. It's like they are surrounded by a dark cloud that
makes us cough not nice words right back at them.
It's one thing if we can avoid the person. Sometimes this isn't
possible, especially if we're related to that special Pigpen (the
character in Charles Schultz's cartoon strip, Peanuts, who is
surrounded by a cloud of dust). What if our poisonous pill is a parent,
sibling, child, co-worker, or even our spouse?
There are a lot of great books and systems featuring techniques for
taking the sting out of our lethal interactions. After all, we really
don't have to bite back. We can choose to leave the kitchen when our
mother is criticizing our cooking for the umpteenth time (a common
occurrence in my life as frankly, I can't cook peanut butter on
celery). But, sometimes we can't seem to control our responses. When
this occurs, we need to dig deeper into our psyche than perhaps we're
used to. We must excavate our souls and transform ourselves.
As I explore in my book, Beyond Soul
Mates, most relationships connect on the soul-to-soul level.
soul is that part of us that travels through time-gathering experiences
in order to learn about love. In the course of our interactions, we
gain the ability to bond and care, to give and receive compassion. We
also get hurt. This hurt becomes the basis of misconceptions about
love, which lead to our participation in toxic relationships.
Think about it. How many dysfunctional beliefs do you think you hold in
regard to love? Many of us suffer a deep sense of unworthiness or lack
of deserving. Certain soul-based relationships trigger these inner
sensations; these are the ones that feel toxic to us. These are the
ones that drive us crazy. These are also the ones presenting us with a
great gift, the chance to change our innermost and darkest beliefs so
they reflect our true self, the essential self that knows it is lovable
and deserving of love.
The basic process is simple.
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1. Your new book, Our
Children Live On, deals with stories of spiritual
contact with children
that have passed on. What inspired you to write such a book?
As a hospice nurse, I am passionate about
bringing comfort, hope, and healing to the dying and the bereaved. The
loss of a loved one is difficult to accept under any terms, but the
untimely death of a child can be devastating. Children are supposed to
outlive their parents and grandparents, at least that is what we were
taught as children. But, what happens when this natural cycle of life
and death is interrupted? Bereaved family members are forced to come to
terms with a senseless world where none of the rules apply. These
individuals desperately need to know that their beloved children live
on. Nothing could be more powerful than the first-hand testimonials of
bereaved individuals who have seen, felt, and experienced their
deceased children from the other side. Remarkable experiences such as
these are able to transform grief by serving as important beacons of
hope for the bereaved. True, heartfelt stories contained within this
moving anthology provide undeniable evidence that our children and
loved ones in spirit live on.
Children Live On contains
more than eighty stories and testimonials of communication with young
loved ones that have passed. From where did you collect these
Over the years, I have met numerous
bereaved parents and family members as a result of my first book, The Angel with the Golden Glow.
This illustrated children's book was inspired by my youngest hospice
patient, who woke me up within hours of his passing. I literally
watched the story happen and wrote it down while being flooded with
goosebumps. This beautiful story eventually became an illustrated
children's book to help families through loss, especially the loss of a
child. Amazingly, one little angel in heaven had shown me the way to
meet other families whose lives had also been blessed by angels.
3. Your previous book, Miraculous Moments,
also contains stories affirming life after death. Do you feel that
bereavement is different when the deceased is a child?
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