The Power of Body
by Richard Webster
Understanding and using body language gives you a powerful tool that
will improve your life in many ways. You can observe the body language
of others to determine their moods, motivations, and feelings. You can
also use body language to project whatever it is you want others to
see. If you feel nervous and insecure, for instance, you can hold your
head high and stand straight to convey an image of confidence. Other
people will assume you are confident, and because your body is
expressing it, you'll feel confident, too.
We all use body language unconsciously. If you meet a friend
unexpectedly, you'll know instantly if he or she is happy, sad, angry,
frustrated, or irritated. This is easy to do with friends and family,
but you also constantly read the body language of strangers. You might
notice someone in a shopping mall and know right away that he or she is
feeling sad. Have you ever started to approach someone, and then
hesitated or moved in another direction? Without a word being spoken,
the other person's body language told you that it wasn't a good time to
interrupt him or her. It's usually a simple matter to tell if someone
is happy, even if he or she isn't smiling. You can probably tell if
someone's smile is genuine or forced. You can sometimes tell from the
person's body language if he or she is lying, or telling the truth. If
you've ever noticed people freeze in terror, tremble with rage, shrug
their shoulders, tap their fingers, raise an eyebrow, stiffen their
upper lip, flush with embarrassment, or raise their chin, you've
observed, and probably interpreted, their body language. Consequently,
you, like everyone else, are already good at reading body language.
However, even though you possess these skills, good is not enough.
Imagine you're a salesperson, and you're subconsciously sending out a
message telling people that you're not approachable. You may have a
habitual scowl on your face, and not know that it's turning people
away. It's a simple matter to remedy that, and if you did, your sales
would immediately increase. As a salesperson, you know that you need to
gain rapport with your customers to make a sale. Certain body language
techniques, such as mirroring the customer's posture, and listening
with your eyes, are good ways to gain rapport.
You might be looking for a partner, or maybe just a date. Your chances
of success will improve if you look happy and keep your arms and legs
uncrossed. Crossed arms and legs create a barrier, and subliminally
tell people you don't want to be approached. Salespeople learn
techniques to make people uncross their arms, because they immediately
become more open when the barrier has been removed. I find it
fascinating that the biggest problem people have when seeking a partner
is an inability to recognize the non verbal messages that are being
sent to them. They either misunderstand them, or fail to recognize
them. Speaking generally, women are better than men at picking up
messages of this sort. If you study body language, your chances of
getting a date improve enormously.
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1. Body Language Quick & Easy
is your fiftieth book with Llewellyn. From where do you continue to
draw your inspiration?
wanted to be a writer. As a child I
had a small weekly newspaper that I used to write and sell to our
neighbors. I also wrote short stories that were published in the
Children's Page of our daily newspaper. When I left school, I went into
publishing, as I thought it would prove useful to me as a writer. I had
beginner's luck, as my first book was published by the first publisher
to whom I sent it. After that, though, it took more than ten years to
get my next book published. I was excited when I had a book accepted by
Llewellyns, and immediately started writing another book for them.
There was never any intention to get to the magic number of 50. In
fact, I had no idea how many books of mine Llewellyn had published
until a few years ago, when people started asking me about it. I can
assure you, I'm not going to stop at 50!
I get my inspiration from a desire to
share the things that fascinate me with others. People sometimes tell
me that I write books on all sorts of different subjects. That's true,
but they all follow a logical progression, at least in my mind. I love
writing, especially the process of writing. I get restless if I'm away
from my computer too long. I have a long list of topics I'd like to
write about, and hope to be writing books for many years to come.
2. Was there anything
specific that prompted Body Language Quick & Easy?
Yes. I was at the Frankfurt Book Fair a
couple of years ago when Face
Reading Quick & Easy was published. All of the
who were interested in the face reading book asked me if I could write
a book on body language. As I used to conduct workshops and courses on
body language some 30 years ago, I thought it would be fun to finally
write a book on the subject, and in due course it happened.
3. As you just
alluded to, Body Language Quick & Easy
is a companion to your earlier Face Reading Quick & Easy.
What advantages do we have once we are able to read the language of
facial expressions and body language?
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