1. Your new book is Heal Your Inner Wounds, which focuses on healing by releasing past traumas. What inspired you to write the book?
Most people carry a deep inner wounding that can affect us when we least expect. It doesn't have to be hurt from a huge trauma where some extraordinary event happened; it can be like a tap dripping over time, wearing you down, to the point that you're exhausted and have lost all your zest for life, and wake up one day and just feel heavy or depressed, and in a stage of wondering what the point of all of this life is.
We need to heal this because we are here to be the best versions of ourselves, to shine our lights out there to the world, and to enjoy the quality of our life. There are some amazing and beautiful things here on Earth, and when we are caught up in our emotional pain we miss most of them. When we're feeling low, or out of balance, when the load we carry has reached tipping point, something can trigger us and we react out of wounding, rather than slowing down, breathing, and responding as the adults that we are. I work on the premise that we need to have a stable and manageable day-to-day life, and be at the best wellness level possible before we can start the deep inner work of healing our wounds.
The way my healing practice has developed over the years, blending shamanism and psychotherapy has taught me so many things about how we are made and how we heal. The inspiration for Heal Your Inner Wounds comes from my clients and from the work that I've done on myself over the years. I can say quite frankly that this book is my best work, and it took years of preparation before I was able to write it! I had written How to Be Well back in 2010 with a view to helping people establish wellness in their day to day life, and I had to embody the work myself in order to present it in a clear and practical way. I felt that it provided a really good foundation for the work that I wanted to cover in Heal Your Inner Wounds. When the time was right, the book appeared, and it flowed from me really quickly; however, it had been gestating for years in all of my experiences and all of the work that I have ever done, both personally and professionally.
2. Why do our past hurts and traumas hold so much power over our current emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing?
They do not have to. It's about how you organize yourself, what you put your energy into, what you believe, and what you feel is important. It's about your character, and your personality, too. Past hurts and traumas can heal, just like a broken bone can heal, just like a scar forms from a physical wound. But if you identify ourselves with the wounding, if you see yourself as a survivor of trauma, you're still feeding energy into the trauma, and it stays active in your awareness. It is the equivalent of picking the wound open, and it never gets a chance to fully heal. The key to healing is to realize the wound is not you. Embodying the healing means you are able to let go of your attachment to the wound, to the experience, and to embrace fully the truth of who you are: a luminous being who walks this earth in a physical body, with emotions and thoughts. We are the sum of what we have experienced, but we are not our experiences. This is the aim of my book(s)—to teach people how to empower themselves, and to take their power back from whatever has happened to them. I see both books together, How to Be Well and Heal Your Inner Wounds, as the instruction books for life that people say we never got!
3. Heal Your Inner Wounds uses a mix of shamanism and psychotherapy to release past hurts. Do readers need to be familiar with either of these systems to use the book?
I write all my books with the assumption that the reader has no background in anything, just a willingness to open their minds and a desire to heal. In fact, you don't need to have read How to Be Well to read Heal Your Inner Wounds, but you do need to be aware that you need to feel in balance and good and healthy before doing the exercises in it. So, if you're not feeling good, don't go there. Seriously—I am calling on my readers to step into the responsible adults that they are, and to go gently because this is powerful, transforming work and healing can hurt before it gets better. Bring the book to your therapist if you want support, or look out for some of my online offerings (I offer low-cost healing online every month, along with pre-recorded healing sessions). Be in balance and have your support network ready before you read this book—that's all that I ask of the reader.
4. What makes the techniques in Heal Your Inner Wounds so powerful?
The techniques in Heal Your Inner Wounds address the wounding that we carry in a very direct way. There is no pussyfooting around, no avoidance or messing about. This means that a deep level of authenticity and honesty is required on the part of the reader in order to fully receive the power that is waiting here for them. Some people won't want that, but I know there are many people that are so ready to heal, they just need a roadmap to get there. It's always been, "I know what I need to do, I just don't know how to do it." This book has the how—working with the inner child, the troublesome teen, the bereaved young adult, the feminine aspect, the masculine aspect, going to the dark places and working with the light. All of these aspects of us are in everyone, and everyone will find something here that they can relate to, something useful to work with, something they can transform, and lots and lots of healing. As a reader you can dip in and read and plant seeds for later, or you can jump in with both feet and immerse yourself and do the work deeply—'s totally up to the reader how far they want to go with this book, or with any of my books. I tend to write in layers, so the first time you read it is like preparation work, and the second time, well, that's totally up to you!
5. What do you hope your readers will take away from Heal Your Inner Wounds?
There are so many take-aways from this book, and everyone who reads it will find something different in it. I hope there are many "Aha!" moments that echo out into the collective consciousness and lift the vibration of the world!
My hope for this book is that it reaches the people who are ready for it. That it has the answers to some of the questions that people are stuck with in their healing process. That it acts as a catalyst for some, and as a great support for others. I hope it reaches people who are not yet ready for it but gives them hope that they may be ready for it someday. And perhaps this book will wake some people up to the fact that they are beautiful, that there is love here for them, and that they are, in fact, truly doing the best that they can. And that there are ways that they can learn how to appreciate that, how to appreciate themselves more, and the people around them more. Because we can all heal in our own way if we allow it. This book is like a bunch of keys to the many different healing processes within all people who care to read it. And with time, patience, love, and dedication people can heal mostly anything. It's all here for us, if we want it.