There are so many complicated feelings happening during a breakup. Validate those feelings and allow yourself to express the pain with this spell intended to help you sift through the raw emotions and find growth from the experience.

You will need:

• An herbal mix that includes 2 parts dried pink rose petals (self-love), 1 part lavender (peace, healing), and ½ part lemon balm (healing)
• A cup or mug
• 1 cup water
• Baking tray
• An 8 × 11 sheet of blank white paper
• A pink tealight candle
• Heatproof container

Steep your herbs in a cup of hot water for approximately five minutes. Place the sheet of paper in the baking tray, and pour the herbal water into the tray, making sure both sides of the paper are damp. Quickly remove the paper from the tray and allow it to dry overnight. Discard the herbal water.

Write yourself a letter on the paper that is now infused with healing herbs. Release painful emotions, while also reminding yourself of your strength and lessons learned. Light the tealight and use it to ignite your letter. Let it burn out in the heatproof container. As it burns, say:

Through pain I find growth.
Through growth I find healing.