Readers, please enjoy this guest blog post by Cyndi Dale, author of Everyday Clairvoyant, Kundalini, The Complete Book of Chakra Healing, and the new Beyond Soul Mates.

So you met your “soul mate.” It’s all supposed to be happy-ever-after at this point, right?

How often did that work out for you?

As I explore in my book, Beyond Soul Mates, we have dozens if not hundreds of soul mates. A soul mate is simply a person—or even an animal—that you connect with soul-to-soul. These soul relationships assist us in healing from past wounds and transforming our misconceptions about love.

Many of our soul relationships are pleasant, such as the connection we feel with a best friend or our loyal dog. Other soul relationships are challenging if not harmful. These might mirror our deepest issues of unworthiness or call forth our unhealed traumas. Soul relationships inclined toward romance are often the most compelling—and hard.

There are three basic types of romantic soul mate relationships that I spy most frequently in my client work as an intuitive consultant and energy healer. See if you recognize yourself in any of these descriptions:

  • Cosmic relationships: Might as well get a bucket of water right now, as these are the most inflaming of soul mate relationships. Sexual, dynamic, and passionate, they start fast and usually end just as quickly. Ever felt really burned after a relationship? The good part of these relationships is that they awaken you to a new life.
  • Twin flame relationships: Think “lub” and “dub” next to each other, two halves of a heart creating one whole. This soul mate is your complement, but remaining forever within its cradle can leave you feeling incomplete. Their main gift is to point out what character traits you might still want to develop.
  • Companion relationships: Your promise rings would read, “Best friends forever.” That’s what companion mates are like, sister and brother. The downside is that these friendly relationships can be pretty boring. It’s hard to feel passionate with, well, your best friend. Safe and secure, they teach us it’s okay to be fully embraced by another person.

As you might surmise—as you’ve experienced, there is a kiss of death inside each of these three main soul relationships. Why settle for a soul relationship when you can instead attract a true love relationship?

A “true mate” is someone with whom we can be our true selves. We’re not only sexual and inflamed; we’re also loving and kind. We don’t fill in the holes in the self of the other; we create more wholeness through the relationship. We are best friends. And the chemistry? Wow!

If both parties are willing, a soul mate relationship can transform into true love. It takes a commitment within each to become their real selves, the essential self that lies under all the life programs and issues. You can also attract a true love, mainly by expressing who you really are in everything you do.

When you meet a true love? One of my clients did. Know what he told me? “I just knew.” He continued by saying, “I knew she was my Eternal One.”

My client and his Eternal One dated for two years; it wasn’t like they were making instant rice. He lived in the United States and she in Japan. It takes a while to bring people from different countries together. Throughout it all, they were grateful for every second spent on Skype or E-mail. And their love has lasted over five years and looks to be forever.

Don’t we all want to be able to express the following?

“I could not tell you if I loved you the first moment I saw you, or if it was the second or third or fourth. But I remember the first moment I looked at you walking toward me and realized that somehow the rest of the world seemed to vanish when I was with you.”

-Cassandra Clare, a character in Clockwork Prince

I hope for us all a vanishing world.

Our thanks to Cyndi for her guest post! For more from Cyndi Dale, read her article “How to Attract True Love.”

Written by Anna
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