Readers, please enjoy this guest blog post by Alex Matsuo, author of the new Haunting of the Tenth Avenue Theater.

Imagine that you are sitting in your living room, quietly watching television or enjoying some reading. All of a sudden, three or four intruders burst in and demand that you communicate with them, yelling, questioning your humanity and even your manhood in order to provoke a response from you. Your reaction? Get out!

Ironic that this is one of the most commonly caught EVPs in ghost hunting history. And yet, we wonder where it comes from without considering what we might have said or done.

When it comes to spirit communication, it has become easy to perceive the dead as inhuman, or no longer needing to communicate as they once were as members of the living. The dramatic tones and questions come into play, and a clear divide is built between worlds that are merely divided by a thin veil.

I have often considered the idea that perhaps the dead are tired of communicating with the living. Week after week being inundated with the same questions by different people must get old eventually. Given that there is a recent trend of reportedly active haunted locations being at times met with silence, it makes me wonder if the ghosts are just tired of having to perform? I don’t think it is a purposeful lack of respect towards the dead, but thanks to paranormal entertainment in the forms of movies and reality television shows, it has become easier than ever to see ghosts as “the other” or some fictional character to be afraid of in real life.

If you were being asked to communicate or prove your existence on a regular basis, surely you will want to start spending your energies elsewhere in the afterlife. Modern-day ghost hunting practices are preventing the dead from truly resting in peace because we are being caught up in a whirlwind of getting scared and feeling that adrenaline rush and excitement in anticipation of communication with the dead.

So yes, it is time to start communicating with the dead as if they were still living human beings. Let us treat these treasured conversations as glimpses into our pasts. Do the historical research to learn more about the deceased. Call them by name. Ask them about their lives. Ask them who the president was while they were alive. We can learn about the stories of these people through extraordinary measures, and we can fill in the gaps of the missing pieces of history about which our textbooks didn’t tell us. Our time is limited in afterlife communication; let’s spend more of that time building rapport rather than asking ghosts to perform tricks for data collection that come in the form of blinking lights and blips on a radio.

Our thanks to Alex for her guest post! For more from Alex Matsuo read her article, “Why Are Theaters Haunted?.”

Written by Anna
Anna is the editor of Llewellyn's New Worlds of Body, Mind & Spirit, the Llewellyn Journal, and Llewellyn's monthly newsletters. She also blogs, tweets, and helps maintain Llewellyn's Facebook page. In her free time, Anna enjoys crossword puzzles, Jeopardy!, being a grammar geek, and spending time ...