Readers, please enjoy this guest blog post by Skye Alexander, author of Sex Magic for Beginners.

Many of us, when we begin studying magic, receive warnings from more experienced magicians urging us to stay on the white path and “do no harm.” I don’t doubt this advice comes from well-meaning sources—in fact, I’ve offered it myself, both in person and in print. But self-appointed guardians can sometimes be patronizing, and often we simply don’t know what’s right for someone else.

It’s important to remember that magical systems and concepts arise within historical, cultural, ethnic, geographical, and philosophical settings. What one magician or group of magicians believes to be ethical or appropriate might not be acceptable to another.

So what, exactly is the difference between white, black, and gray? That depends on whom you ask. Your intention—not just what you say or do—matters. Some magicians subscribe to the following definitions:

• White magic is performed for the purpose of connecting with spiritual forces in the universe, in order to gain wisdom, insight, or enlightenment.
• Black magic is done to harm or manipulate someone else.
• Everything else falls into the gray area.

I wish to point out, however, that I have no idea where these distinctions originated. Subscribe to them if you so choose.

If you consider this in light of the law of attraction, another picture emerges. The law says you can only attract what’s in alignment with your own resonance. If that’s true you can’t seduce, rip off, or manipulate someone who’s not ripe for the experience, using magic or mundane means. There’s really no such thing as “right” and “wrong.” The terms “good” and “bad,” “white” and “black,” lose their meaning.

In my book Sex Magic for Beginners, I suggest you trust your own instincts, instead of following someone else’s dictates—whether you’re a novice or an adept. If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. But if it sings to you, go for it.

Our thanks to Skye for her guest post! For more from Skye Alexander, read her article “Sex Magic for Beginners.”

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