Capricorn is one of the "parental" signs, playing patriarch to Cancer's nurturing matriarch. In counterpoint to Cancer's emphasis on the nurturing of a single, family unit, Capricorn is a worldly sign, determined to enlarge its sphere of influence well beyond the boundaries of one small household. A couple that enters into a Capricorn marriage will never feel as if they are reaching their potential until they have reached a position of philanthropic influence. Capricorn is not satisfied with building one family, but it rather likes the idea of building a family name—a dynasty of influence and achievement that will outlast any single nuclear family unit.You may not perpetuate a political dynasty, like George H. W. and Barbara Bush. Few are in a financial position to create charitable foundations on the scale of the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation. You may not adopt children, like Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman. But if you marry with the Sun in Capricorn, you will find a way to build your legacy.
My mother's sister and her husband were married on Christmas Day. They didn't leave a lot of money behind when they died, and they didn't have names you would recognize, yet they left a legacy of caring and philanthropy that influenced a wide community. Theirs was a two-career marriage well before that concept was popular, and my aunt, a banker, received a promotion to branch manager and vice president in an era when women rarely attained such influential positions. But they were compassionate, generous people whose two children often found themselves sharing their bunk beds with disadvantaged waifs, and my aunt was closely involved with a charitable organization that helped women escape from domestic violence. I benefited personally from their generosity. After my father died suddenly, we moved across country and lived for several years with my aunt, uncle, and cousins. Until they died, I considered them my "second parents."
The Capricorn Season
January is named for the Roman god Janus, the ruler of doorways and thresholds, including the threshold between the old year and the new. Janus symbolized change and transition and was worshiped at harvest and planting seasons, as well as beginnings—such as marriage.
Astrologically, the Capricorn season has worldly and practical connotations that don't exactly jibe with modern notions of romantic love and "happily ever after." Capricorn, ruled by stern Saturn, is considered a symbol of tough pragmatism and ambition, of grownups with real-world concerns. Like Scrooge, Capricorn's story is one of balancing worldly ambition with the tender world of the heart, home, and family. When you walk down the aisle during the Capricorn season, you may be dearly in love—but what will keep you together is what you build together.
How It Begins: The Capricorn Wedding
Capricorn is not known for wild partying, but it is an earth sign after all, and it enjoys earthly pleasures like good food and good liquor. That's good liquor, mind you. And quality food. A buffet-style reception will earn you a sniff and a raised eyebrow from your patron sign: as far as Capricorn is considered, one sits at dinner and is served one's meal—preferably on good china. Capricorn has a deep respect for history, so invite traditional touches into your ceremony: the grandmother's ring, the "giving away" of the bride. The vows and service will be dignified; customization will be minimal. Classical music is favored over rehashed folk tunes.
Dignified, subdued shades such as forest green, black, charcoal gray, or indigo blue are the best choices for a Capricorn wedding. The Capricorn bride is one of the few who will almost never drape her long-suffering bridesmaids in boatloads of tulle and pastel ruffles; this will be an elegant production with simple, classic designs and muted shades.
Flowers that signify tradition are Capricorn's favorites—chrysanthemum, rose, and for a Christmastime wedding, poinsettia and holly. Visualize a dignified candlelight ceremony in the family church, the wedding party in dignified shades of tailored gray and bright red poinsettias everywhere, and a string quartet for accompaniment.
The Care and Feeding of Your Capricorn Marriage
The Purpose of a Capricorn Marriage
So you need goals, objectively measured in outlines and lists, day planners and wall calendars. You need to have the sense of having built something together, and you need recognition, whether it's in the form of awards or simply a fiftieth wedding anniversary party where friends and family warmly celebrate your lives together. Most of all, you wish to leave a legacy—a body of work, and a spirit of charitable involvement and giving.
Sources of Friction
But as you pull into your driveway, you notice there isn't a single light burning inside the house. You dash through the rain, trip over a plant, fumble to find your key in the dark. You let yourself in and find no one else is home yet, and the cat begins hollering for some kibble. You feed the cat and rifle through the pantry for a can of soup, but as usual, no one has had time to go to the store—or to split firewood. You settle for a cold cheese sandwich in front of the wall heater . . . but it's not quite the same.
A well-tended home shouldn't be a luxury, but when everyone is consumed with the work of the outside world, the domestic community can suffer. And a marriage and home that are neglected for too long can leave you both brittle and out of sorts. The primary challenge of the Capricorn marriage is to balance outward achievement with inner contentment—and the demands of the outside world with the needs of a home and family.
The Capricorn Marriage Style
The Face You Show the World
What You Own
You will probably do exceptionally well in building up whatever you consider to be a fortune—and that will likely set you apart from a lot of the other people in your lives. Your tendency may be to feel uncomfortable about this and go out of your way to downplay your good fortune. But better still is to share your genius with others, and to try to help them see opportunities for using their own skills and resources to their best advantage.
How You Communicate
You may share a love of artistic expression such as music, poetry, art, or writing, and these are vital forms of communication between you. Those who see only your pragmatic, businesslike sides are surprised to find gentleness and a hint of fantasy in your words and ideas.
How You Live
Red is a particularly good color choice for your home; paint a wall crimson, or invest in a red slipcover for your sofa. Red's warmth and vibrancy are stimulating and cheerful and will help perk you up after long days fighting the battles of the outside world. If at all practical, choose a home with a working fireplace or wood stove; failing that, fill your home with candles and lanterns. Because they get the most use, the coziest rooms of your house will likely be your home offices. And your kitchen will be outfitted with a great cooktop and premium-quality knives—all of which rarely get used!
Your Children and Creative Spirit
You enjoy your pleasures and recreation, and non-work hours—though few—are full of music, relaxed dinner parties, and leisurely games of golf, tennis, or cards. Creative expression, and friends who are merry and playful, provide pure pleasure and a welcome diversion from your worldly ambitions.
Your Work, Health, and Daily Routine
All this commotion, if not balanced by plenty of outdoor exercise and the occasional moratorium on communication, can fry your delicate nervous systems to a crisp. You are especially vulnerable to nervous stomachs and skin rashes, and when your bodies start sending you these unpleasant signals, it is time to take a break. A simple fifteen-minute bike ride in the middle of the day—not an indoor bike, either; you need fresh air and sunshine—will help give you a periodic boost of energy as well as keep you healthy.
Your Friends and Foes
The people who are most troublesome for your marriage are needy, clinging, and emotionally demanding. They sulk when you don't return their phone calls quickly enough, accuse you of looking down on them because they aren't as successful as you are, and feel that feeding you the occasional pot roast gives them the right to tell you everything that's wrong with your life. I need hardly advise practical folks like you to run from these so-called "friends" as fast and as far as you can!
What You Share
Romantic gestures, and the nurturing of a grand romantic narrative about your relationship, are important for keeping your marriage affectionate and lively. My uncle, a notorious curmudgeon, nevertheless kept a Christmas Eve ritual of shopping for his wife's anniversary present. He nearly always gave her some expensive but practical item she'd been longing for, but I always thought the really romantic gesture was his willingness to fight the crowds at the shopping mall on Christmas Eve, just to remember his wife on their wedding anniversary.
What You Believe
Your beliefs are a fundamental component of your day-to-day lives together, but you feel strongly that treating people kindly in the here-and-now is much more meaningful than relying solely on rewards in the hereafter. You are critical thinkers, and any religion must satisfy your intellectual scrutiny or encourage deep and humble commitment to good and practical works.
Your Contribution to the World
The perfect example of this phenomenon is the Capricorn marriage of George H. W. and Barbara Bush. It's a union that has stood the test of time and had an important influence on two American presidencies. By all accounts, Barbara Bush, while wearing the public face of the "woman behind the man," is the true spine behind the ascendancy of the Bush dynasty.
Your Place in Society
Your entire view of the future is based on the fact that mortality is ever-present in the forefront of the Capricorn consciousness. It's likely that early trauma, such as the illness or death of someone close to you, has imprinted you with a keen appreciation for the transitory nature of life. Consequently, you have faith in your ability to survive. You live your lives as though there were no tomorrow, while at the same time you appreciate every moment you have.
Your Private Sanctuary
There is also a religious side to your relationship that doesn't tend to express itself in allegiance to a denomination or to churchgoing, but which borrows from many faiths and includes a love of ritual and ceremony. Your work in the world is deeply influenced by your respect for religious beliefs and cultural differences, whether or not you belong to a church or espouse religious dogma in public.
From Star Guide to Weddings, by April Elliott Kent
April Elliott Kent (California) has studied astrology for over thirty years, and has practiced professionally since 1990. She has contributed to The Mountain Astrologer, Wholistic Astrologer, Llewellyns Moon Sign Book, ...