When a querent comes to you for a reading, do you let them ask whatever they want? Or do you work with them to develop a really good, well-thought-out, clear question?
For most of my reading practice, I was the Queen of the Questions. I felt that questions were Very Very Important. They had to be worded just so or the tarot wouldnâ€™t be able to answer them properly. You couldnâ€™t leave any loopholes for the tarot to wiggle out of answering. It sure put a lot pressure on the querent and myself because if we messed this up, boy, were we in trouble
But then, Iâ€™ve always been a bit uptight and liked things very ordered. The older I become, the more I loosen up. This fact has significantly affected my tarot practice.
Do not mistake the tenor of this post as implying that working with a querent on crafting a question is wrong or silly. Everything I am saying here is poking fun at myself. Many of my colleagues are artists of the perfect question. There is a reason why we say: you cannot get the right answer if you donâ€™t ask the right question. And it is true that so many times the answer is embedded within the question.
And maybe itâ€™s not so much that Iâ€™m getting all loose and groovy. Maybe Iâ€™m just lazy and all of what follows is simply justification. Iâ€™m sure you will tell me what you think!
These days I do not mold a querentâ€™s question unless I am not clear on what they are asking or they specifically ask me to help them. And even then, I do not stress too much about it.
Ever since Iâ€™ve eased into the idea that my role as reader is that of an oracle, Iâ€™ve learned to trust the cards more and rely on myself less.
I think of the cards as the divineâ€™s way of speaking with me. And because I think of the divine as a loving entity and a really smart/wise one, too, I trust that it will help me deliver the right message, even if my querent and I screw up the wording of the question. It occurred to me that I was thinking of the universe as a crafty lawyer looking at my question and trying to find loopholes and ways to get out of answering. I was, in the reasoning behind my approach, denigrating the divine.
I was also denigrating the querent. Say the querent asks, â€świll I get a job next month?â€ť In my old ways, I would have talked the querent into asking something like â€śwhat actions can I take to increase my chances of getting a job?â€ť But that is assuming the querent hasnâ€™t already done everything they could. Maybe they have. Maybe they just want to know if their labors will bear fruit. So just answer the questionâ€¦yes or no. If it is â€śno,â€ť then Iâ€™d suggest adding to the reading to get ideas to change the outcome.
Iâ€™m really enjoying this loose and jiggy approach. My readings feel more natural, and definitely more inspired. And I have to say, my querents seem much more satisfied.
But this is just my journey along the path of the art the question. Whatâ€™s yours?