With so much sexual content hitting the bookstore shelves, sent in plain brown parcels, and downloaded on the Internet every day, what could possibly be written about sex that’s new? Well, strangely enough, the answer is “all the really important stuff.”
Despite the fact that we are all products of sex, we all experience its feelings, and we all recognize its power to motivate, sex is a subject that we actually know very little about. It may be constantly talked about, thought about, and practiced, but very little of this seems to happen with any real understanding. We experience sexual feelings, but we don’t know where they come from. We give expression to these feelings, but with little thought for how best to do so. We have virtually no comprehension of the sexual big picture, and therefore no solid philosophical basis from which to view its phenomena or guide our sexual choices.
The primary objective in writing The Beginner’s Guide to Sex in the Afterlife was to address this—to present an expansive sexual philosophy, the sexual big picture, that we so desperately need. That meant exploring and answering fundamental questions, such as: What is sexual energy? Where does it come from? What is its purpose? What happens if we repress it? What happens if we let it run wild? What is wise use, what is unwise use and why? How can we control our sexual energy, how can we improve it and what is its highest and most magnificent use?
Like The Beginner’s Guide for the Recently Deceased, The Beginner’s Guide to Sex in the Afterlife assumes that the reader is dead. An extraordinary subject needs an extraordinary perspective. To grasp the subject at its core we need to see beyond its portrayal in popular culture, and this is where the afterlife perspective (where inner reality is turned inside-out) is ideal. By taking a broader, non-physical perspective, it is easier to bring the subject down to first principles, determine the source of our sexual energy, trace its course through our bodies, and reveal some of its extraordinary power and capacity.
The philosophy explored in The Beginner’s Guide to Sex in the Afterlife is proudly independent of religion, popular culture, and social research, because none of those sources of information will get us to the essence of our subject. The only way to see the grand view, to understand the big picture of the origin, purpose and potential of sexual energy, is to go to the source, to the only infallible teacher—and that’s nature. The book describes an example of “Green Language”—the language nature uses to inform and instruct—and the extraordinary insights that an understanding of this language can bring.
The book takes the form of a tour, taking the reader to various places around the world. It is in these places that we make our observations, read nature’s symbols, and shed light on her mysteries. The reader will find him or herself on top of the Great Pyramid at Giza, above Lake Phewa Tal in Nepal, on a small island off the mainland of Tonga, in the Piazza del Nettuno in Bologna, and amongst the hill tribes of Tanna—one of the islands of Vanuatu. When you’re dead and you can zoom from one side of the world to the other in minutes, why wouldn’t you?
But while the book presents an expansive philosophy on a very important subject, it doesn’t take itself too seriously. I quote from the Preface:
“The Beginner’s Guide to Sex in the Afterlife is written for the dead. If, however, you are yet to make the transition, we suggest you pour yourself a glass of wine, settle back into a comfortable chair and let the author take you on a guided tour of the sextraordinary.” It is possible to explore serious subjects with humor, and to communicate more effectively because of it.
Sex is an important subject; it can be the source of great joy, but also the source of great suffering. To understand it in its broadest context, to understand its origin, purpose, and potential, has to be one of the most necessary things we can do. If you believe that sex is something only applicable to physical bodies, that it’s all about pleasure, that it’s simply a function of friction or a gathering of groins, then you have glimpsed but a tiny fraction of it. Sexual energy may well be the greatest power in the cosmos. It is a power that is capable of utterly transforming us, and is the only power capable of unfolding all our potential.
And if you think that’s overstating the case, prepare to be amazed.