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The Astrology of Love and Sex

This article was written by Olivia
posted under Astrology

Astrology helps you to understand the multifaceted being you love (whose underwear is decorating your bathroom). Too often we wake from the honeymoon in shock. Where did that nasty temper come from? Tight-fisted with money? Lack of imagination in bed? No, this cannot be the perfect person with whom I signed a two-year lease!

Fortunately, astrology gives you insight into the full spectrum of your loverís soul. Just by knowing your loverís birth date, you can understand his or her Sun sign and the planetary energies that rule it.

The magnificent Sun represents the ego and your need to individuate, to be your own person; it represents your need for creativity, self-expression and a positive self-image. The Sun also shows how you go about creating that impressive, smart, dynamic god or goddess you dream of being.

Itís important to realize that youíre either an evolved soul or still in kindergarten. Yes, there are many lovers ďon the pathĒ between those two points, but for those who have been around the cosmos a few times (in various incarnations), theyíre now in the ďgraduate schoolĒ of life. These lovers hold the brass ring on lifeís merry-go-round: real honest-to-goodness adults, accepting responsibility even when life tests their souls. At the other end of the spectrum is the kindergarten class posing as grownups. They wreak havoc in any relationship with their infantile needs, turning love into a romance of whine and roses!

Love After Sex is about the emotional problems you might encounter with your lover, but remember, these problems can be minimized (even totally eliminated) with a mature soul mate. If your loverís still sucking on an emotional pacifier, be brave if you really careóthe going may get rough.

Thereís More of You to Love Than Your Sun Sign!
Iíve also given you the chart to find your loverís Moon sign. While the Sun is termed masculine in astrology and represents the father, so the Moon is its feminine counterpart and signifies the motheróthe lunar yin to the solar yang. Itís the Moon that speaks of our innermost feelings and how giving we are in nurturing our lovers.

While the Sun and Moon give great insight, they by no means give you the whole astrological picture. Imagine a wheel (the horoscope) composed of twelve houses, each signifying a different part of our lives: work, love, children, health, friends, relationships, and so on. Only by knowing the exact time and place of birth can we determine what sign is placed in the first house, known as the Ascendant or Rising Sign. It represents the ďfaceĒ we show to the world, confirming that what you see is not necessarily what you get! The Ascendant also determines, to a great extent, oneís health and physical appearance.

After reading this book, you may say, ďWait a minute! My Cancer loverís personality really fits the Capricorn profile.Ē Once you have your loverís personal horoscope, you may discover that his or her Rising Sign is indeed Capricorn, or multiple planets are in Capricorn. Add to this astrological puzzle the exact placements and aspects of all the other planets in the heavens, and just imagine the endless configurations, the fascinating possibilities. Astrology is a never-ending adventure of discoveryójust like love.

What Was That You Didnít Say?
Communication is what this book is all about. Itís the biggest stumbling block youíll face on that uphill climb to a great relationship. Naturally, itís easy to communicate when times are good Ö there are long talks in bed, whispered secrets. Itís your loverís shoulder you cry on, your loverís voice you long to hear when youíre apart. But! When problems arise and hurt raises its wounded head, youíd rather die (or at least lie) than admit how crushed you are. Pride gets in the way, and itís not easy confessing how insecure you feel. Your most important words go unsaid. Your deepest feelings are never expressed.

Most of us have little experience communicating during an argument without angry attacks. Often, the best we can do is simply shut down, close off our emotional connections and stew in the sour juice of hurt feelings. The other person isnít a mind reader, so he or she reacts negatively to the arctic drafts. A typical reaction (unspoken or not) is, ďOh, so youíre not talking? Well, two can play that game.Ē Suddenly, both of you are silent and frustrated, each one feeling righteously indignant and waiting, just waiting, to be approached, to feel the touch of a hand, to have it all made right again.

Unless the unspoken hurt and anger are healed, they can slowly undermine the foundations of love and trust.

What lies at the bottom of it all? What are the underlying tensions that were never brought into the light? I call them the Triple-Headed Hydra: Sex, Money, and Power. No matter how deeply in love or personally enlightened you are, at some point in your adventure of living together youíll confront this nasty beast. Iím here to help you discover its hiding places and off with its heads!

I promise Love After Sex will be a guidebook unlike any other, and when you get to the last page, it will be time for a new beginning. Youíll return to your relationship revitalized and wiser, with a new sense of who you are and who it is you really love.

Excerpt from Love After Sex by Olivia


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